I live in a box. I said this years ago about a SAHM I knew of, and never meant it in a derogatory manner, but it was conveyed as such. I think we all live in boxes, sometimes we choose our box, other times we create boxes for protection, sometimes we fall into a box unwillingly, or sometimes life calls you straight to your box. Me? I am the latter, life called me straight to my box as a SAHM.
My ideal day consists of the following, get up with Too Tall to exercise, eat breakfast and see him off to work. Followed by some light laundry/cleaning and reading/writing. During the school year supervise the older kids as they get out the door. Then listen for “littles” to wake up, fed and change, and start my day of interacting with them, playing, maybe hitting the gym or grocery store, playing, watching educational programming, eating/serving lunch, naptime/quiet time, rolling out the door for after school pick up, during the school year greeting the babysitter to have one-on-one time with Oui-Oui to supervise homework, go to the pool, walk to the park, make dinner, greet husband, eat dinner with the family, clean kitchen, assist with bath time/bedtime routines, hope for some quality time with Too Tall and then snooze. That IS my box. I am a SAHM. Sometimes, I can get a play date in there, other times, I go have lunch with Oui-Oui, occasionally I get wild and crazy and go have lunch Too Tall down in Dallas.
Often my day does not completely play out as listed above. It is filled with cries, poopy diapers, passionate pleas from Little T to watch the TV program she can’t get enough of, and I’m also the greatest sippy cup bartender serving up the coldest freshest milk money can buy. Such is the box I’ve been called into, and that isn’t a bad thing at all. I like to think my box has a pretty bow and lots of glitter.
So many times, we long for the box we once had, the box we thought we were destined to create or even worse the box we ‘thought’ were entitled to have. It is time to embrace your box as it is today. Push its limits, add to your box, clean your box, grow with your box and find that the box you’ve got works for today. Rest in the fact, in time a different season of life will change your box. Most importantly, don’t miss out on the joy, life lessons, and memories the box of your present will bring you.